Friday, July 5, 2013

Kidnapped Bride in Central Asia

Since I had one month vacation I ended up being bored and I can’t go out because it’s raining outside.  So I ended up watching documentaries in YouTube in an attempt to pass time. I ended up watching This Video 

though I would admit that somehow the twisted part of me romanticize of the idea that someone would kidnap a woman he loves so much but the whole world seem not to agree with what they both feel, they run away into a place where no one know or recognize them and start a new life and they live happily ever after.


The life of the woman on that video though is not a fairy tale like ending, as most realities are. These happen in Kyrgyzstan (Know Something about the Country here) a country in central Asia who have a weird or let me just say sick tradition of kidnapping their bride.  Some are their friends that they think suited to be their wife, some are GF but they want to get away with the high price of a bride and worst thing some are strangers. 


For me this tradition should be left behind, if a man loves a woman he should be asking for his hands, if a  woman loves him back she wont be thinking about his price. Woman is not a commodity that if they go second hand their price will go down. I find this tradition so sick I pity for this girls.

I have heard a lot about shot gun wedding, arrange marriage and child bride but this is the first time I heard about it..  they are sick and twisted. These are the kind of tradition better left behind and forgotten. sigh!

51 comments:

  1. Such a sad thing to be going on :( - running away to cement a forbidden love is one thing, but to actually kidnap someone is quite a scary thought - poor women. x

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    1. yeah most of them dont really want to marry,they wanted a different life but since the parents can never take run away bride they have no choice.

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  2. It is hard for me to hear that this type of pure nonsense is still going on in parts of the world!! Yes, somehow it should be stopped-but until those countries (or parts of countries) change on their own---outsiders will not be able to make them see reason.

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  3. If I were in that part of the country and of marrying age.... I might have to keep a ball bat near my bed and knock out anyone I wouldn't want to marry. LOL... but thats just me.

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  4. Wow this is also the first time I am hearing about this as well.It does not sounds like a good tradition at all.

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    1. sad thing is that some woman romanticize of being kidnapped.

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  5. This is so sad! I feel so sorry for these women!

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  6. This is incredibly sad and something I had not heard about. I with Terry, I would buy a bat.

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    1. yeah I would do that too hehehe.. a gun would be better :)

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  7. I had no idea this was still going on . You hear about the slave market and black markets and such, but this seems like a different situation all together. What a horrible fate for these women.

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  8. I find this to be extremely disturbing. I don't understand this type of marriage ritual but it does show that women in other countries have no rights or any value. It is sickening to me.

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    1. they somehow have a value but not in the way we wanted to value... and yeah they dont really have the right.

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  9. I haven't heard of such a thing happening in weddings! Are there many cases like these? It can be a good topic for a thesis of Social Studies.

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    1. in that country 50 percent of married woman were kidnapped bride..

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    2. Wow Fina, you've done your research well!!!

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  10. Very sad that this happens in some countries.

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    1. yeah it's sad I was shocked when I was watching the documentary..

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  11. That tradition is really sick. I hope they find the true meaning of love without coercing.

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  12. This may sound weird for us who are not used to their culture or folkways. But for them, this practice is in. Well, whatever their culture of marriage as long as they are satisfied and contented of their living, it is socially approved. But generally speaking, most traditions were wrong.

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    1. yeah I guess that is the case, but i guess even insiders see it somehow in a negative way as well.

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  13. This is such a weird tradition and I hope they find a better way at finding and keeping love in their lives.

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  14. What kind of tradition is this? I would never do this to the girl that I want. Girls should be treated with respect and they deserve to be loved.

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  15. Ang haba ng video..
    its really weird, and I have to agree, its a sick tradition.
    I hope they'd find a better way to practice tradition in a gentler way.
    Like what we know most, that Men should vie for the hand of women and notforce them to marry

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  16. Such a tradition makes me love our country even more, where there are no such drastic actions. I pity those girls. I wish there could be done for them, something that can save them from such acts.

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  17. That shot-gun marriage is definitely wrong. If that would happen to me I wont accept it. True love shouldn't have to force someone else.

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  18. I agree with your point. Women needs to be respected. We are not just simple commodities. We don't have prices on our necks.

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  19. This is the first time I heard of this and I watched the video. So sad that some girls even committed suicide because they are kidnapped and they don't like the life they have with the man. This tradition must be destroyed. No respect for women at all, they must not kidnap women just like that.

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  20. that is scary and very unfair to the woman! They have the right to choose who they want to be and who they want to marry.. haays such traditions!

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    1. that makes us thank god that we were not born in that part of the world.

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  21. I pity those girls for having to experience that kind of practice. They were not given the chance to experience the value of love (to love and be loved). This is the first time I heard about this!

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  22. Gaah, I can't believe these people are still living in their old ways. Parang ang closed-minded lang nila.

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    1. oo nga eh kaso parang karamihan na kasi sa kanila tangap na nila na ganun talaga sila.

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  23. AFAIK, these happens in central asia as well as in other parts of the globe. Though its not very common, the question is "does the bride wants to get kidnapped or not?"

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    1. they dont want to BUT the problem is that they have no choice but to marry that man. Most of those kidnapped bride are strangers to their future husband.

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  24. That's terrifying but a reality in many countries :( It is really unfair for a woman to be forced to marry a man against her will :( I hope this ends soon.

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    1. so far there are campaign against it I hope things will change in the near future.

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  25. for me this sounds horrible... they should definitely get rid of that idea!

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  26. So weird wedding tradition. Only sick mind can do this. Poor girls naman.

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  27. This is one wedding tradition i cringe to ever be part of. Kawawa naman the girls who would end up with someone not worthy of their time and love.

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  28. At this jet age such still happens? Its really crazy!

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  29. It happens in places where there are no women's rights. This is the 21st century but sadly, there are still many places in the world where women are not respected...yes, even here in the Philippines.

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